First, this is a personal liberty issue and has to do with the most important personal decision that any human makes. I believe that, as Americans, our freedoms come from God and not government, and include the rights enumerated in the Declaration of Independence: life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. What could be more important to the pursuit of happiness than the right to choose your spouse without asking a Washington politician for permission? If there is one belief that unifies most Alaskans – our true north – it is less government and more freedom. We don’t want the government in our pockets or our bedrooms; we certainly don’t need it in our families.
— Senator Lisa Murkowski (R-Alaska), arguing for the legalization of gay marriage by the premise that family planning is an individual right and not a civic institution. “We don’t want the government in our pockets or our bedrooms; we certainly don’t need it in our families.”
Assertive Boss Voice
Anybody who is remotely successful in advertising develops a sort of charisma charm about themselves. It’s how we sell things, after all, to clients or our own teams. The fact is you can call us slimeballs or nice™.
Conversely, we develop these very scary “you’re wrong” personas.
Today, during a meeting, I corrected a very stubborn developer in front of the team. In a few words, that were calm but firm, I reduced the room to quiet.
The developer fessed up to what he did wrong and promised not to deviate again.
It’s such a weird balance to strike. “Bitch” is the most dismissive description a woman in management can be called. I’d much rather be viewed as an asshole. I’d much rather people fear my disapproval than avoid my nagging. I’d much rather people seek my approval than seek my silence.
My assertive boss voice is always in constant work because it has to be forthright, full-throated, appropriate, and all these other things or it just doesn’t get anything done.
why do white people think they’re doing something revolutionary when they “learn” our languages and our cultures and go to our countries and then write about all of those experiences like they’re experts? why do they consider themselves worldly and like some type of new age post-racial ideal person when they do this? bc you know back in the day, it was called colonialism, and as it turns out, your people have a long history of writing about our cultures like you’re experts and shutting our voices out of our own conversations, soooo yeah.
But when they’re the only white person in an “ethnic” restaurant, they’re clearly very cultured. /sarcasm
staghunts replied to your post: We’ve got another one of those stories where…
That’s the premise of many teen-dramas though. Here’s this 500+ year old dating a 14 year old. Or the 25 year old teacher who dates his 14 year old student. In high school, it certainly seemed like a status symbol to date older, even with dirtbags.
When I was in high school, “older” was, like, 20 or maybe even 23 or 24. “Older” was not “someone’s dad” or “someone’s grandpa.”
I maintain that any middle-aged man who legitimately thinks there are teenage girls in the world who can’t wait to drop their panties for them is a man who is living in an ocean of self-delusion.
Oh absolutely, there’s still a delusional element to it.
I get what you’re saying that it’s not common and that there’s a certain delusion to the belief that all teens are looking for significantly older romances, but my point is that if someone significantly older has been trying for a long time, they’ve probably had some success, and any success makes the next opportunity worthwhile.
But I also think you’re lucky that “older” was mostly mid-20s. When I was 16, a GF of mine left me for a 45 year old man. The criticism was quickly romanticized as a pair of unlucky lovers against the world who wouldn’t ever understand them.
Is the guy a pedophile? Oh absolutely, but ask that 16 year old girl then what he was, and she would say he was the moon and the stars. I think if you asked her today, she would say that as a feminist you shouldn’t think all 16 year olds are incapable of adult decisions.
That predation is romanticized by pop-culture. Most teens wouldn’t, but there’s enough of it that happens that the older men are willing to chance it.
Like the boards and forums for men who pay for sex, there are boards and forums for men who prey on teens and children, and the fuel for their fire and the success stories with ammunition in tips and proven tactics for that predation. NAMBLA is a publication dedicated to older men with lusty intentions for the significantly younger.
I’m neglecting the stories of other teens I knew who were raped/assaulted by the much older in pseudo-consent.
I say teens, because the absolute worst of it growing up was when gay boys I knew met older men. The gay boys who were terrified of being outed in school turning to “mentors” and just any sense of community… it’s not hard to feel like someone older understands—even if they’re much older.
Revenge is sweet
Thought this was funny until I thought about the postal workers who would have to deal with this shit all the damn time.
They don’t need to deal with this prank, esp since most of them are just doing their damn jobs and delivering your mail no matter what it is.
BF is a postal worker
he already has a chronic injury from it
can we not do this how about
Cute prank (tw: racism, homophobia): http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/13/racist-frat-prank-chicago_n_3436836.html
Basically, some assholes thought it would be fun to send 80 boxes of crap much like the OP here and label the recipient “reggin toggaf”.
The frat house that received them kept insisting to the postman that it was funny! Now they’re playing victim to the other frat house. Neither of them really give a shit about what they did to the postman.
Way to go Tumblr! Let’s exact revenge on corporate entities through exploiting and general not giving a shit about workers.
PS: anytime you mail shit back, it’s read by a lower-level employee or machine, not one of the higher-ups that have made the decision to annoy you.
All I want to do is play a new game where I shoot things. Apparently, that is asking a lot from the Playstation Store.
Gwendoline Christie is the actress for Brienne of Tarth in Game of Thrones. She stands at 6 feet 3 inches tall and took swordfighting, horseriding, and stagefighting lessons for her part, as well as gaining 14 pounds of muscle, to accurately portray Brienne. (x)
She was also terrified of cutting her hair because she’d spent her life believing it was one of the only things that would make people see her as feminine despite her height. In an interview with TV Guide she said:
I struggled for a long time with [cutting] my hair, but then I’m grateful for the opportunity to realize that femininity doesn’t have to come from hair or any of those traditional female archetypes of appearance, So, that’s been exciting actually. I can’t speak with any kind of authority whatsoever because I’m just an actor and I only have my opinions, but I do think it’s really refreshing to have a woman depicted on a mainstream TV show that doesn’t obey typical aesthetics of females and the way they have been portrayed in the past. And I’m really excited to be portraying one of those women. And I hope that her popularity signals a greater expansion of people’s views about men and women and that gender types can be more flexible.
seriously you guys we’re gonna have to start being better at including reliable data about asian and pacific islander americans in our commentaries about race because there’s this evil thing called the model minority myth and also asians are super diverse, so we have to disaggregate data by ethnicities while also keeping in mind that we’re poc too and we also suffer from racism and when white people say we don’t, you should definitely not believe them.
June 13, 2013 at 11:27pm
Engaging in Facebook Arguments
I rarely do it. In fact, this was a pretty radical friend of mine who posted about the idiot who sent dick pics to a woman and harassed her in spite of her requests to quit so she sent them to his mom.
I liked the post. Most of the comments were like “haha” or “fuck rape culture”.
One person was like, “How is this rape culture? You’re on a dating site, what do you expect?”
20 comments or so later, including at least 7 that pointed out that it was unsolicited and that she asked him to quit messaging her, the person is all like “I didn’t read that part! My bad!”.
It’s really fucking hard to believe that excuse. It’s almost a third of the text messages and almost every retort to their “it’s not rape culture because it’s acceptable behavior” shit.
ugh ugh ugh I hate people.
To be fair, model minority stuff tends to be limited to Sino-Asians, and even within Sino-Asians, the paler the better. My personal experience including my mom telling me not to tan or I’d look poorer.
A lot of times, when you talk about “Asian”, whites don’t even acknowledge that an Indonesian or Bangladeshi (for instance) are “Asian”—brown and probably Middle Eastern cause they look Muslim or some shit to that effect.
I’d feel confident betting that the authors of the Bell Curve, inventors of model minority shit, wouldn’t categorize brown Asians as Asians.
The Japanese, Chinese, and Koreans within Asian cultures are the whites. In fact, the economic problems as a result of ethnic Chinese controlling wealth in countries like Indonesia is pretty awful.
Yeah, the AMEMSA kids definitely shouldn’t check off “Asian” on any college application. They reap the worst of model-minority typing, but reap none of the supposed benefits of model-minority typing plus they get to be categorically denied their ethnic and cultural identities because people can’t be bothered to distinguish Asian countries that aren’t Japan, China, or Korea.
Oh shit, Russia, too. People always forget that Russia is like 75% physically in Asia.
Asia is one large and diverse continent.
The Bell Curve was published in 1994. The term “model minority” has been in use since the 60s and before that, Asian Americans have been considered productive/hard-working to the point of threatening white success since the 1800s.
p sure it’d be inaccurate to assert that Indian Americans don’t get filed under the idea of the minority success
Maybe it’s just my experience, but white racists tend not to think of India as Asia. I’m not sure where they think India is located. But they package Indians, Pakastinis, Indonesians, and other brown Asians as part of the Arab group.
I don’t know if you saw my post about the “Savanna Principle”, but one of the other studies to support it included comparing Indian factories to US factories. Pretty scary stuff about the “shortage of quality labor” or that their workforce is incapable of adapting.
Culturally, Indian Americans might be filed under model minority, but I’m not seeing it academically. Too brown? Not sure. Model minority typing has always boiled down to economic threats (workforce, upheaval, global rank, etc). Bloomberg Businessweek talks about China and Mexico much more than India.
Though regionally, in parts of Michigan Persian Americans are definitely model minority. Kurds in Tennessee? That economic threat value varies from region to region.
It’s true that Asians have been considered a threat before the Bell Curve, but the Bell Curve to me was the first widely accepted and touted as academic proof that the fear was substantiated. You’re right they didn’t invent it, but it had a tremendous effect as “science”. Though racists have always tried to rationalize racism through “science”.